Beautiful Dreamer

 

 

This little section is reserved for those little tidbits of information I know hope will be of interest to my readers. Check back often, as I plan on doing a regular update.

 

 

 

 

"Emotionally bonding with an abuser is actually a strategy for survival for victims of abuse and intimidation. This is often called "Stockholm Syndrome."

 

Here is an excellent article on The Stockholm Syndrome, an all too common effect of protracted abuse.

 

 

Many adult survivors of sexual child abuse reach a point in their healing journey of questioning whether or not they can (or want to) continue having a relationship with one, or both of their parents. Ten years ago I decided that I could no longer have a relationship with my mother. Though that decision brought me much relief, it also created much anxiety.

My Parents Are Dead to Me is a well-articulated article expressing the anguish of being put into the position of having to sever ties with one's parents. I recommend it for anyone who is considering ending their parental relationships, or for those who already have and are experiencing guilt for having done so. 

 

 

“Cutting through the lies about your perpetrator is vital to your healing. He or she was the “hunter”; you were the “hunted.” He or she took every precaution to abuse you in private. He or she thought about it and planned it. He or she chose the right bait to lure you in, and then pulled the trigger. When a hunter shoots a deer, do you blame the deer?” Patty Hite

 

 

 

 

There are many things I could devote the rest of my life writing about, but I've chosen to focus primarily on sexual abuse issues, which leads to the purpose of this little paragraph. Having been honored with a 3 page spread of my poetry in this month's Pink Panther magazine, I'd like to invite my readers to visit their blog as a show of support to abused children everywhere (and for the abused children most of you reading this used to be.) This magazine also deals with domestic abuse issues. You'll find me on pages 42-45--but this isn't a lame plug on my own behalf! Please check out the other writers and artists and join me in reveling in the knowledge that light is steadily at work, fighting the darkness. And finally, for those who would rather read a printed version of this monthly publication, you can order a copy here.

 

Click this link to go to Dissociation Blog Showcase. There's a wealth of great blogs here, all dealing with the intricacies of living with DID.

 

Overcoming Sexual Abuse is an informative and empowering website worth checking out.

 

 Child Sexual Abuse: Body Memories is an excellent article exploring the issue of missing memories,  body memories and real memory syndrome relating to sexual abuse.

 

Standing Up for Your Child covers everything from peer pressure, to bullies, to speaking out for the most helpless members of our society, our children.

 

"It's impossible," said pride. "It's risky," said experience. "It's pointless," said reason. "Give it a try," whispered the heart.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Need help finding a therapist? The website for the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation is a good place to start. There's a whole lot of other excellent information as well that's worth checking out.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sweet suburban solitude:

 

 

If the shoe slipper fits, wear it!