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Check out this article about the Fifty Shades of Grey phenomena, including a list of organizations which strongly oppose this sick trend, and have implemented various means of helping women who have been sexually victimized.

 

Were you raised by a narcissist? Chances are you were if you suffered any form of childhood abuse. The Little Red Survivor website is filled with excellent articles examining the many faces of narcissism.

 

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Kate Is Rising has an excellent Survivors Resources page which directs you to numerous websites dealing with issues of abuse, healing and recovery. Please bear in mind that the information on these pages may be triggering.

 

 

There's lots of good stuff at the Dissociation Blog Showcase, including a list of 180 blogs dealing with some aspect of this disorder. 

 

 

On the Overcoming Sexual Abuse site there's an article entitled, "It's Not About You Mom" which I could have written myself. I bet many of my readers could say the same!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Entries in Gratitude (33)

Thursday
Jan222015

Things That Pleased Me Recently

Getting over the worst of a Chronic Fatigue flare-up . . . the vintage metal drinking glasses which were a gift from Sissyface . . . a friend gifting me with new car tires . . . snagging one of M's drawings to send to an artist friend . . . experiencing shock at the realization one of my sons is about to turn 40, which will mean I have 3 sons 40 or over (gulp!), then laughing with delight at my own shock . . . finishing a shrug for Miss M . . . a Christmas visit from I. who still lives in Texas, and is now 12 (she chided me for my "dirty" bedroom and said, "You always have a dirty room," to which I responded with much indignation, "It's not dirty, it's messy. Messy! That's not the same as dirty!")

Wednesday
Dec102014

I'm Getting There

A brisk wind is blowing; soon I'll have to go out in it to pick up my granddaughters from school. How delicious to play this role in their lives, yes even when it wears me out. I'm for some reason noticing many things to be grateful for, all around me.

I have to laugh at the last line of my previous post: Please, may I never have to sew again! I laugh because I spent 5 hours yesterday making my youngest granddaughter a rag quilt. Funny how you can vow to never do something again, but when it's for someone you love that vow goes right out the window. And so I'm grateful for the gift I know this flannel quilt will be to her.

Here's something else worthy of my gratitude. Right in the middle of working on 2 big Christmas projects, I realized there is no way I could finish both, or even one of them, by Christmas. Normally this would throw me into a tailspin that would have me obsessing and stressed for days. Am I simply getting too old to allow such things to affect me? Or maybe I'm finally, finally learning that there really is no sense in stressing over what I can't control. Whatever the reason, I'm beyond thankful to recognize the need to give myself permission to change plans, and to be able to actually give myself that permission. I contacted both individuals who knew what I was making them (a necessity, since I had to consult them about colors, etc.) and neither of them care if they have to wait a few more weeks. One of them even expressed relief because what she's making me isn't even half done!

It's the little things like this (if one can accurately refer to them as 'little') that gives me a sense of hope. Hope that I'm heading in the right direction. And even if I dawdle along the way, or take shortcuts that turn out to be dead-ends, I'm getting somewhere nonetheless. I'm not cracking a whip over my head as I've done all my life, but neither am I frozen in place, afraid to make the least decision lest it turn out to be the wrong one.

I've done both for far too long: drove myself furiously, or refused to move forward. When I see that I'm progressing even in a small area of life, it warms me. It makes me grateful. All is not gloom and doom, though there will always be plenty of that in this old world. This isn't a denial of the very real tribulations we all must face in life, this is an acknowledgement that --despite the tribulations-- there are also good things to experience.

I persevered in making the quilt because I wanted my granddaughter to have one like her sisters'. Not out of a sense of "I have to" but out of a sense of desire. I knew it would challenge me, as all sewing does, but I chose to forge ahead.

Life has been steadily teaching me, though I've been a slow and dull learner, that the sky really won't fall if I can't finish a project on time, or if this, that or the other happens. Not everything is a catastrophe; when something truly is, I bet I'll manage to get through it because of all the experience I've had getting through so many of them.

I didn't mean to write this as a gratitude post, but see what I mean? What I intended to do got lost in what I really needed to express, and it turned out just fine.

I am looking forward to the day I no longer have to walk through life with not just my fists, but my entire body clenched. I'm getting there, I swear.

 

 

 

Saturday
Nov152014

Things That Pleased Me Recently

Receiving in the mail the tags I'd ordered to attach to the handmade knits I'll be giving out for Christmas . . . one of my sons unexpectedly kissing the top of my head . . . being gifted with a big bag of books, and actually reading one all the way through in two days . . . commenting to my young granddaughters that we found some great deals at the store, and one of them saying with a loud laugh, "Well, we're not farmers!" . . . realizing, oh, realizing I did experience anger as a child . . . investing in a new pair of knitting needles . . . one of my granddaughters saying happily, "I'm in love with nature."

Sunday
Aug032014

Free Books

Last week I won a $40 gift certificate to Powell's Bookstore, the second time I've won. This replaces my usual "Things That Pleased Me Recently" post, for obvious reasons! Any time I get new books, and for free no less, I'm filled with gratitude.

You may notice something a bit strange in the photo. I accidentally ordered three of the same book! I remember that when I placed the order it didn't go through the first couple of times. When it finally worked it tripled the quantity for that particular book. Oh well, I can return them at my leisure.

The Writer's Handbook, the big volume on the bottom, sells for $35 and I got it used for $1. It doesn't get much better than that. They also added a box of note cards as a surprise gift.

This unexpected gifting of books is just what I've needed in the midst of this heatwave that makes everything so difficult. Isn't it funny how little it takes to lift one's spirits?

Tuesday
Jul222014

Things That Pleased Me Recently

Winning a $40 gift certificate for a local book store . . . waking up to rain . . . finishing the first draft of a children's story . . . after nearly a year of waiting, finally being able to put all my boxed up things back into my storage unit out back . . . working on Christmas projects . . . reading an Edith Wharton novel for the first time . . . receiving a new manuscript for beta reading . . . being blessed with true-blue friends.