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On the Overcoming Sexual Abuse site there's an article entitled, "It's Not About You Mom" which I could have written myself. I bet many of my readers could say the same!








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Entries in Softies (4)


Sew Sew

My day has been so-so, or rather, sew-sew.

Up until several years ago I spent a lot of time sewing softies. I derived a certain degree of pleasure (usually) out of creating a one-of-a-kind doll out of whatever odds and ends I had lying around. It was a challenge to make something up as I went along, and except for technical difficulties with my sewing machine, I mostly enjoyed the process.

Not so much any more.

I'd promised these softies to a cousin's grandkids for Christmas, and whatever flaws I may have not following through on a promise is not one of them. Even though I've bitten off a bit more than I can chew in regards to making Christmas gifts, I was determined to get these done in time to pack them up and send them on their way.

What you see in the photos is the not unpleasant final result. What you don't see is that each of the little friendly monsters took about half of a day to create. One false start after another had me longing to scrap the whole project and make some excuse to my cousin....but, I couldn't. I wasn't a Girl Scout for nothing!

Oh I know that old saying: all's well that ends well. And in this case I can say that's true. Whew, what a mess I made of things. I believe I went through about 3 different versions of each little monster before I came up with something that pleased me.

So that's done. And please, may I never have to sew again: amen!


Along Came Sassy

I've spent about a week on my latest doll. One interruptionSassy after another had me thinking I'd never get her done, but bleh, here she is. I discovered something in the process of making her: I much prefer to knit dolls than to sew them. I'd rather knit than sew any day. Normally I don't much like knit softies, but this one appeals to me for some reason.

This morning I discovered ants in the kitchen. I woke up early to watch Maddy and Anna, discovered the ants, and promptly turned my head and pretended not to see. Drank two cups of coffee, had a smoke, glowered at the clock every few minutes to see if it was time to walk over to their place.

When I brought the girls back to my place everything was good for a while. Anna was her usual grinning, pilfering self. I'm up to her tricks, having raised five little pilferers myself, yet still she managed to nearly choke on several small items.

Maddy's potty training and doing really well. I sat pretty much in a stupor of exhaustion, rousing myself to excavate misc. odds and ends from Anna's mouth or to change a diaper or the TV station. Fridays just kill me, but today was harder than usual. Then it got worse.

Maddy decided to shove toilet paper up her nose. Not a huge amount, and she didn't even freak out until I said, "Oh Maddy, don't put things up your nose!" Her eyes got huge, she began crying and blubbering, which made her go into a coughing spasm, which resulted in throwing up the M&Ms she'd just eaten. Then Anna began wailing because of Maddy's freak out. I didn't know how I'd calm Maddy down, I'd never seen her so hysterical. I walked into the kitchen to grab something to clean up the mess, and she followed me and suddenly announced, "I okay now, Nana. Nana, now I okay."


Anyway, just checking in briefly before I go lie down and rot my brain with TV reality shows. Tomorrow is the once a year neighborhood garage sale I love to go to whenever I get a chance. I'm hoping to come home with lots of good stuff. My son and daughter in-law gave me money expressly for this purpose. Yahoo!



My Newest Creations

Yesterday was incredibly busy. After running errands in the morning I came home and immediately began working on softies. Sometimes I forget how dire my financial situation is becoming, then there are times like yesterday when I spend the entire day sewing, hoping to supplement my income. I can't believe I spent the whole day (until 10 pm!) sewing. It was so hot and humid I should've been marooned on my bed like a beached whale.

Now just where did this week go? Tomorrow is Friday already--then just two days until you-know-what. Ugh, best not think of that. Off I go then to create more softies,





This has been a morning for running errands in a rather lollygagging sort of manner. I purposely kept myself at an easy pace, mainly to see what it would be like to be more laid back. Hmm, this will take practice. I'm used to feeling a frenetic need to hurry hurry hurry.

I swung by the bank, picked up a book on hold at the library (and felt very pleased with myself for discovering--all by myself--a shortcut back to my neighborhood.) Picked up some fast food for me and #5 son, went home to eat. From there it was a little jaunt to the fabric store, then off to Goodwill to spend the $10 voucher Sissyface gave me.

I'd like to think I'm merely getting things done, you know--being efficient, but I know there's a great deal of inner unease because my mother is about to arrive. Today or tomorrow, I don't remember which. I'm tired of asking Sissyface, so I won't. Either way my mother will be here soon, staying with my sis until Saturday, then she's off to my brother's. After 5 days or so Sissyface and she will be flying somewhere (Arizona?) to meet up with my other sister, and an aunt, to spend a week together. I keep forgetting my sister is going to be gone for awhile, as I also forget the reason for it. At least I don't feel any real sense of being left out. I can handle being left out of a get together with another sister I barely know (though I've no hard feelings towards her), and an aunt (my mother's sister) who I also really don't know. Oh, and of course, my mother. What I can't handle is being left out of get togethers with what I think of as my side of the family: my kids and grandkids.

Well anyway, this is one of those 'filler' entries to keep everyone semi-interested in my blog until I've time to post something more worthwhile. I'll leave everyone with a photo of myBaby with his own little blankie. newest softie, Baby. I'll be posting him on Etsy soon for $7. Of course, to by-pass the mobs who will be lining up in disorderly fashion to purchase Baby, simply drop me a line if you'd like to adopt him.