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Check out this article about the Fifty Shades of Grey phenomena, including a list of organizations which strongly oppose this sick trend, and have implemented various means of helping women who have been sexually victimized.


Were you raised by a narcissist? Chances are you were if you suffered any form of childhood abuse. The Little Red Survivor website is filled with excellent articles examining the many faces of narcissism.


It's been a long time coming---7 years to be exact---but finally email notifications for new BD posts is available. Sign up today and never again miss another post. You know you want to!













Kate Is Rising has an excellent Survivors Resources page which directs you to numerous websites dealing with issues of abuse, healing and recovery. Please bear in mind that the information on these pages may be triggering.



There's lots of good stuff at the Dissociation Blog Showcase, including a list of 180 blogs dealing with some aspect of this disorder. 



On the Overcoming Sexual Abuse site there's an article entitled, "It's Not About You Mom" which I could have written myself. I bet many of my readers could say the same!








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A note to my readers:

I've decided to drop all trigger warnings, except for this page. If you have DID or are a sexual abuse survivor, any blog or site of this nature has the potential to trigger. It's impossible to know what might set someone off, and so this general caution rather than individual warnings.

If there's something I really want to post, but it's more explicit than what is normally on this blog, I may deem it appropriate to warn my readers. Other than that, I'm going to leave it up to my readers to read responsibly. Please be gentle with yourself; don't try to force yourself to continue reading anything which may cause chaos inside your system!



  1. Hi - I came over via a comment that you left on a blog, another room. I got caught with reading your writings. You’re a very good writer. From what I know about DID (virtually nothing), you have maintained and handle your life well.
    Hope you don’t mind if I visit again and check in on you.

    warmest thoughts,
    Dana/Texas Mammie

  2. Your writing is beautiful, and so inspirational.

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  5. Hi Beautiful Dreamer,

    It’s late at night and I’ve found your blog when my mind should be finding its own peaceful dreams.
    Yet for all the harrowing possibilities your blog threatens, I’d agree with Effess above that your writing strikes a chord.
    Quietly, gently yet passionately, I wish you well.
    Back I shall come when time allows.

    Until, kindest regards,

    - Solo xx